5 Ways to Recover from Infidelity
One of the most devastating emotional, physical, and spiritualwounds in a coupleship is when cheating occurs. Once this is discovered, the betrayed partner wants to know the truth while the offending partner may acknowledge the infidelity but is fearful of sharing more lest the relationship end in a divorce, separation, or break-up.
As a psychotherapist who specializes in sexual and cultural issues, here are 5 areas that are recommended for the relationship to get the healing it deserves in times of infidelity.
Japanese Shame of Sleeping: How Asian Cultural Shame leads to Workaholism and Sleep-Deprivation.
In many Asian cultures, work is equated with one’s worth. Work is perceived with reverence and cultural honor even if it supersedes your mental or physical health. For the Japanese, extolling work is evident as the country ranks as the most sleep-deprived nation of the world getting just more than 6 hours of rest a night.
The average person in Japan sleeps just 6 hours and 15 minutes at night, an hour less than in the U.S. and Switzerland, according to a recent Wall Street Journal article. This puts Japan at the bottom of its list of developed countries.
Suicide & Ethnicity: How Asian shame and cultural stigma make Asians prone to suicide in the U.S.
You may ask how culture can play such a pivotal role in this alarming rate? First off, Asian immigrants to the U.S. bring centuries-old viewpoints on education, mental health, and cultural identity. First among these is the understanding of cultural Asian shame. This is the belief that Asians come from traditional collectivist societies that value interdependence over independence. Consequently, the need to preserve and perpetuate collective honor (i.e. family, ethnicity, society, etc.) is held in highest esteem. Failing to do so leads to what I’ve coined as “Asian shame”, where one feels they have so disgraced their kin they must hide oneself (i.e. physical and/or emotionally) or rid oneself from society and atone for their actions by suicide (see past blog titled, “Asian shame and suicide”).
