Asian Shame & the Imposter Syndrome

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When Asian clients come to counseling, generations of habits, thoughts, and beliefs follow them.  One of the most pernicious is these individuals believe they are an imposter. 

They may have succeeded academically, professionally, or relationally by worldly standards (i.e. good grades, distinguished careers, or stable marital relationships) yet deep down there’s a profound sense that something is awry.

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The Incel Ideology: Treating Incels is similar to addiction treatment.

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When Incels (Involuntary Celibates) or those with “Incel-like” tendencies come into my office or request about my services, they will often first distance themselves from describing themselves as extreme Incels as those on the fringes have been associated with misogynistic, angry, and violent men who endorse killing men and women based on their sexual frustrations.

Yet they empathize with the Incel community’s concerns and share many of the similar ideologies with the exception of supporting the violence.   What’s characteristic of many Incels is their cognitive distortions also known as “thinking errors” often referenced in addiction recovery circles.

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Millennials love Anime/Hentai Porn: What parents need to be aware of when it comes to cartoon porn.

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Hentai is a Japanese word that translated into English means “perverse” sexual desire.  Its porn which comes in cartoons, anime, or Manga format is one of the most popular kinds of porn for Millenials, young adults, and children.  According to one porn site’s analytics detailing the most popular search terms on its site, ‘Japanese’ shot up 4 positions to become the most searched term of 2019. While ‘hentai‘ (NSFW) remained the second most popular term.

Needless to say, this is a trend that is likely to stick as Hentai porn attracts both young and old.  Old in the sense that long-time porn users often need a more stimulating material as they have hit a certain level of tolerance and different types of porn for arousal and intensity.

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