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The Name Change of Asian-Americans: Why Asians “Americanize” their names.

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As first-generation Chinese immigrants from Hong Kong, my parents shared a funny story of how my brothers and I acquired our “American” names. When we arrived in Seattle as toddlers, my parents went to the one white couple they knew and asked them what would be nice names for us here in the U.S.

Without much hesitation, they responded, “Let’s go with Sam, Ken, and Fred!” So in the blink of an eye, our Chinese names were replaced with Sam, Ken, and Fred. We didn’t have any say in the matter as our parents thought this would be the best way to help us assimilate easier into this country.

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What Everyone’s Getting Wrong about Sex Addiction & Violence

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The suspect in the recent Atlanta spa shootings that left eight people dead, six of whom were women of Asian descent, claimed he carried out the carnage as a means to rid himself of “temptation.” 

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The 21-year-old gunman, Robert Aaron Long, identified to police that he had a sex addiction and purportedly had been in a Christian treatment center to address the issue.

But what exactly is “sex addiction,” and how does it differ from a compulsion? Are all sex addicts violent? And how does someone know if they’re addicted to sex, anyway? Go to Men’s Health to read the rest of my story.

The Sexual Conquest of an Asian Woman: The Long-Term Consequences of Racism, Sexism, and Imperialism.

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How did the Asian woman become the symbol of sexual docility, subserviency, and exoticism?  While viewed as demure, the Asian woman is also cast through the years as a sexual temptress n the same vein, the Asian woman is considered a sexual temptress to be tamed and devoured by the white man.

The reality is this was the result of Western Imperialism in East Asian countries through the years.  There’s an ugly truth in war that few want to acknowledge: sexual collateral damage.  Especially America’s history of military occupation overseas in Asian countries.

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The Atlanta Spa Shootings: Was it the result of racism, addiction, or mental illness?

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The Atlanta spa shootings on March 16th, left eight people dead where six of the victims were women of  Asian descent who worked at the spas.  It’s an unfathomable and horrendous crime occurring in the midst of a pandemic.  Coincidentally, there has been an exponential spike in hate crimes and incidents of verbal and physical assaults on Asians both in the U.S. and worldwide.  It goes without saying, this shooting had people, especially Asians wondering if it was racially-motivated.

Police arrested 21-year-old Robert Aaron Long of Georgia for the shooting.  Authorities said Long committed the heinous crime because of his sex addiction where he wanted to rid himself of temptation.  Long had indicated being a religious man and denied any racist motivation.  Therein lies the rub-some Americans struggle to see criminal acts from an ethnic minority’s perspective.

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How to Encourage Hatred & Racism against Asians: When white leaders hide hate speech behind the veil of free speech.

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As an Asian-American psychotherapist and speaker specializing in multicultural issues, I get to hear the real-world worries, anxieties, and fears from my Asian clientele when it comes to their increased vulnerabilities they face when going about their lives here in the United States.  

Clients have shared stories of verbal slights, jabs, and outright hostility towards them in public.  Some remain cloistered in their homes and limit public interaction as a means to reduce their risk of being targeted. 

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