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The Incel Movement: The Sexual, Social, Recreational, and Racial Implications

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They’re teased for being virgins (“virgin-shaming”). This is a new societal shift that has radically changed within the past two decades. It wasn’t long ago when you may have been shamed for being sexual outside of marriage, now you’re shamed if you haven’t had sex before marriage. Think about the 2005 movie, The 40-Year-Old Virgin, where the main character is encouraged by his friends to lose his virginity as an objective unto its own. Now retitle it, The 20-Year-old Virgin, to reflect today’s societal pressure of what age it means to be considered sexually mature. In short, the worldview is if you haven’t had sex by 30, you must be not only sexually inadequate, defective, and inept but also socially.

They’re also teased or bullied for being socially awkward or being different. This oftentimes can be due to physical disabilities, physical characteristics Continue Reading

The Incel Problem: Blaming and Externalizing the Problem

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The tragic death of 10 innocent lives in Toronto is a reminder of the vitriol and hate stemming from a minority viewpoint from within a fringe group known as “involuntary celibates” or Incels for short.

25 year old Alek Minassian intentionally struck a number of people on a busy Toronto street with a rental van and was charged today with 10 counts of murder and 13 counts of attempted murder.

Police say on the suspect’s social media accounts, messages read: “The Incel Rebellion has already begun! We will overthrow all the Chads and Stacys! All hail the Supreme Gentleman Elliot Rodger!” Continue Reading

Male Intimacy: What is It?

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gay menThey do not love that do not show their love. -Shakespeare

I often throw out the words “emotional intimacy” with my male clients with blank stares as the only intimacy they may have been aware of is sex.  But in my work with individuals and especially groups, I can see them learning the skills even if they’re not aware of what it is they’re learning. Continue Reading

Why women “test” men

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A woman in a relationship with a man, especially early on, will “test” him to see if he can draw a boundary for himself. It may come off as an innocuous joke or teasing but there’s usually an unconscious motive behind this. The reason for the testing is because a healthy woman wants a man strong enough to defend himself when being emotionally attacked by a woman. If he can not do this, he fails the test and unconsciously the woman loses respect for the man. She may still stay in the relationship with him but deep in her heart, there’s a grave disappointment that her man can not be the leader in the relationship she so desires. Continue Reading

Why girls like “bad” boys?

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People say women like “bad boys” and I’d have to say there’s truth to that claim. But is this to say you can’t be nice and be with a good woman? Hardly. In fact, nice guys can finish first if they learn what the level of attraction is to a “bad” boy. Bad boys aren’t necessarily jerks who act maliciously to their women. But what they have learned is that women need men with strength. Continue Reading

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