Category Archives: Addictions

Addiction & the Covid Connection: How Addiction has increased amidst the Pandemic.

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In the past year, I’ve seen my caseload and that of other colleagues jump significantly amidst this pandemic.  Is it a coincidence?  I don’t think so.  Unfortunately, the pandemic has brought about the perfect storm for addiction: isolation, secrecy, and a desire for escapism.

Addiction thrives in isolation and secrecy.  New clients have reported how the physical isolation from friends, family members, and co-workers has only added to that sense of loneliness.  In addition, those who were in the initial stages of addiction recovery but had yet to develop a strong connection or community of mentors, sponsors, 12 Step Groups or others avenues of help found themselves suffering in silence.

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Relapse is a Part of Recovery: The Reality of Addiction Treatment

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Clients and loved ones come into therapy wanting to end their compulsive, addictive behaviors but few recognize the realization of what it encompasses.  People will swear to never go back to their “drug of choice” and I will acknowledge their steadfast commitment while giving them an understanding that recovery should be likened to a marathon and not a sprint.

People enter addiction recovery after years of engaging in their destructive behaviors and I let everyone know that it’s going to take patience and understanding for true recovery to take hold.

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What Everyone’s Getting Wrong about Sex Addiction & Violence

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The suspect in the recent Atlanta spa shootings that left eight people dead, six of whom were women of Asian descent, claimed he carried out the carnage as a means to rid himself of “temptation.” 

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The 21-year-old gunman, Robert Aaron Long, identified to police that he had a sex addiction and purportedly had been in a Christian treatment center to address the issue.

But what exactly is “sex addiction,” and how does it differ from a compulsion? Are all sex addicts violent? And how does someone know if they’re addicted to sex, anyway? Go to Men’s Health to read the rest of my story.

The Sexual Conquest of an Asian Woman: The Long-Term Consequences of Racism, Sexism, and Imperialism.

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How did the Asian woman become the symbol of sexual docility, subserviency, and exoticism?  While viewed as demure, the Asian woman is also cast through the years as a sexual temptress n the same vein, the Asian woman is considered a sexual temptress to be tamed and devoured by the white man.

The reality is this was the result of Western Imperialism in East Asian countries through the years.  There’s an ugly truth in war that few want to acknowledge: sexual collateral damage.  Especially America’s history of military occupation overseas in Asian countries.

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The Atlanta Spa Shootings: Was it the result of racism, addiction, or mental illness?

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The Atlanta spa shootings on March 16th, left eight people dead where six of the victims were women of  Asian descent who worked at the spas.  It’s an unfathomable and horrendous crime occurring in the midst of a pandemic.  Coincidentally, there has been an exponential spike in hate crimes and incidents of verbal and physical assaults on Asians both in the U.S. and worldwide.  It goes without saying, this shooting had people, especially Asians wondering if it was racially-motivated.

Police arrested 21-year-old Robert Aaron Long of Georgia for the shooting.  Authorities said Long committed the heinous crime because of his sex addiction where he wanted to rid himself of temptation.  Long had indicated being a religious man and denied any racist motivation.  Therein lies the rub-some Americans struggle to see criminal acts from an ethnic minority’s perspective.

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