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The Sexual Conquest of an Asian Woman: The Long-Term Consequences of Racism, Sexism, and Imperialism.

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How did the Asian woman become the symbol of sexual docility, subserviency, and exoticism?  While viewed as demure, the Asian woman is also cast through the years as a sexual temptress n the same vein, the Asian woman is considered a sexual temptress to be tamed and devoured by the white man.

The reality is this was the result of Western Imperialism in East Asian countries through the years.  There’s an ugly truth in war that few want to acknowledge: sexual collateral damage.  Especially America’s history of military occupation overseas in Asian countries.

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The Atlanta Spa Shootings: Was it the result of racism, addiction, or mental illness?

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The Atlanta spa shootings on March 16th, left eight people dead where six of the victims were women of  Asian descent who worked at the spas.  It’s an unfathomable and horrendous crime occurring in the midst of a pandemic.  Coincidentally, there has been an exponential spike in hate crimes and incidents of verbal and physical assaults on Asians both in the U.S. and worldwide.  It goes without saying, this shooting had people, especially Asians wondering if it was racially-motivated.

Police arrested 21-year-old Robert Aaron Long of Georgia for the shooting.  Authorities said Long committed the heinous crime because of his sex addiction where he wanted to rid himself of temptation.  Long had indicated being a religious man and denied any racist motivation.  Therein lies the rub-some Americans struggle to see criminal acts from an ethnic minority’s perspective.

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How to Encourage Hatred & Racism against Asians: When white leaders hide hate speech behind the veil of free speech.

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As an Asian-American psychotherapist and speaker specializing in multicultural issues, I get to hear the real-world worries, anxieties, and fears from my Asian clientele when it comes to their increased vulnerabilities they face when going about their lives here in the United States.  

Clients have shared stories of verbal slights, jabs, and outright hostility towards them in public.  Some remain cloistered in their homes and limit public interaction as a means to reduce their risk of being targeted. 

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Dating an Addict: 5 “Green” flags to look for if you want the relationship to work.

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If you’re dating an addict of any kind, it would behoove you to know what “green” flags to look for.  Green meaning signs that point to a potential fruitful, healthy, and engaging relationship as opposed to one sucked into a vortex of secrecy, lies, and cover-ups.

As a psychotherapist specializing in trauma and addictions, here are 5 of the biggest “green” signs to look for:

1)   Acknowledges the addiction: If you suspect someone is struggling with an addiction, chances are you’re right.  If they get defensive and demand they have the right to their drug of your choice then you’re headed towards a relationship rife with problems. 

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Speak English: The Coded Language of Modern-Day Racism in America.

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Critics often ask why I have to talk about issues related to race and culture.  To them, it’s as if I’m the one inciting racial strife and division by discussing these issues but if I stopped, they believe we’d magically live in racial bliss and harmony here in the U.S.

Yet, here in my hometown of Seattle, Washington, this week’s resignation of Kevin Mather, the CEO of the Seattle Mariners was indicative of how much race is an issue, especially to those like Mather who espouse disdain, contempt, and hostility towards those of us who aren’t as “American” as he is.

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